Knowing how to recognise some of the common signs of anger issues can help you control your anger before it gets out of control and help you recognise when it’s time to seek help.
10 Signs of Anger Issues
Below is a list of 10 common signs that may signal that you have anger issues. Read further down this page for a detailed explanation of each one.
- Anger affects your overall quality of life
- People keep telling you that you have anger issues
- You feel angry all the time
- You get into physical fights
- You verbally shout and abuse people
- You damage property
- You suffer from low moods or depression
- You avoid certain people, places and events
- You fall out with multiple friends and loved ones
- You are very critical of yourself and others
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(1) Anger affects your overall quality of life
If you find yourself struggling with anger on a daily basis and it’s affecting how you feel in a negative way then this is a sure-fire sign of anger problems.
If you have lived with anger for a long time then it may seem normal to feel angry, stressed or tense on a daily basis, but it’s certainly not healthy.
Feeling angry all the time will also no doubt be causing issues in other areas of your life such as your relationships with others and also your confidence in yourself and beliefs about your own identity.
Try and imagine the polar opposite of how it feels if anger did not consume you and think about how much more relaxed and free you would feel.
(2) People keep telling you that you have anger issues
One of the most annoying things in life is when people tell you something that you already know because you don’t need telling what you already know.
Or do you?
If you’ve been told on more than one occasion recently by your friends, family or loved ones that you have anger issues then it should not be ignored.
And if you find yourself getting really angry every time they bring it up then that might well be a pretty sure sign that you have anger issues.
It’s important to note that just because a couple of people say you’ve got anger issues it does not mean you have big anger problems or that you need help.
Why not take my free anger management test and get some unbias feedback.
(3) You feel angry all the time
This may sound like an obvious sign but if you find yourself getting angry about all sorts of things all the time then you should seek help.
It’s easy to get lost in a whirlwind of anger at times where you find yourself ranting and raving at such silly things.
It can also one of the fastest to a hospital bed because feeling angry all the time over any prolonged period of time can damage your heart.
If you do find yourself feeling angry all the time then it can be a good idea to take a time out to reflect on exactly what might be causing your anger.
Anger is often a smokescreen that hides other feelings such as sadness, anxiety, stress or other mental health conditions.
(4) You get into physical fights
If your anger issues are ending in physical fights with people then you need to seek help right away.
Fighting with and physically abusing people is a serious criminal offence that can have a severe impact on both your own life and others too.
It’s also worth mentioning that physically harming yourself is also a critical sign that you need urgent help because you are just as important as everyone else.
(5) You verbally shout and abuse people
Shouting at and verbally abusing people when you are angry is probably one of the most common signs of anger issues.
Although shouting and verbally abusing people can seem completely normal if you have been on the receiving end during your life, it is not acceptable or normal behaviour to most people.
It can be so easy to lose your temper and say something you instantly regret that can cause massive long-term damage to your relationships with others.
I have heard multiple people say they sometimes feel like it would hurt them less to get punched in the face than to be verbally abused.
Verbal abuse is by far the most common reason why clients come to me for help and I would highly recommend you to do the same before it’s too late.
(6) You damage property
If you find yourself smashing up property as a result of your anger outbursts then this can be a sign of anger problems too.
Punching, kicking or throwing items can actually be used as a positive anger management technique so long as it does not risk causing damage to yourself, others, to your property or the property of others.
But if your temper is causing you to risk the above damage then it could be a good idea to seek help.
Although smashing things up can release some steam at times and seem harmless if you’ve got the money to replace things, there’s always a risk you could cause unintentional damage to yourself or others and get into trouble.
(7) You suffer from low moods or depression
It is very common that clients come to me with anger issues that are accompanied by low moods and sometimes depression.
This is normally a result of them losing their temper, feeling instant regret for their behaviour and punishing themselves for it.
Low moods or depression can also be the cause of anger issues too, so it’s always good to try and speak to someone who can help you discover if anger really is the area you should focus on first.
If you are really struggling with depression then it’s always a good idea to speak to your local G.P. for advice.
If depression is causing you to have suicidal thoughts then click here to further help and information.
(8) You avoid certain people, places and events
Avoiding certain people, places and events is another positive anger management technique I use with some of my clients but it’s not a healthy long-term solution to your anger problems.
I work with a lot of clients who avoid things such as family parties, busy supermarkets or shopping centres because they know it’s a potential trigger for their anger.
But spending your life completely avoiding these things will ultimately reduce your overall quality of life and could also cause you to feel withdrawn, abnormal and could lead to depression.
(9) You fall out with multiple friends and loved ones
Another common signal of anger issues is when you find yourself falling out with multiple people over a short period of time.
It’s easy to deflect your anger by justifying your reasons for falling out with friends, colleagues or loved ones but it’s only going to make your anger issues worsen over time.
If you’ve found yourself in a situation where you have fallen out with a lot of people then don’t ever think there’s no way back.
You’d be very surprised at just how forgiving and helpful people can be when you apologise and talk to them about your battle with anger.
And you’ll also be surprised at just how much better you’ll feel yourself when you do.
(10) You are very critical of yourself and others
If you find yourself constantly criticizing yourself or others it can be a sign of some hidden anger issues.
Often when we are unhappy it can make us feel better to either punish ourselves more with negative self-talk or to make others feel bad too.
It’s very common that my clients tell me their partners, friends or family have described them as being passive-aggressive. This is often a strategy used in order for them to avoid an anger outburst.
So if you find yourself constantly calling yourself bad names, telling yourself you’re not good enough or picking at others then sit back and try to reflect on what is really making you behave this way.
Get Help with Your Anger Issues
I work with people on a daily basis helping them overcome their anger issues and start living a more fulfilling life.
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Disclaimer: I am a professional coach with advanced training and experience in helping people in areas of mental health, but I am not a qualified medical professional.
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